If he wants to fuck you, then you've got a decision to make. Actually you'll have several. The first of which is whether or not you want to. Now here's where this may get tricky for some. Fucking and caring are not mutually exclusive. For all I know, it's your sweetheart of a boyfriend being cheeky or cute or sexy when he sends you this text. And that's great. Hopefully you want to answer it with something sexy (and we'll get to that in a bit), because he is your boyfriend and all so I would hope you want to bang his brains out. But what about if it's just someone you've been dating? Or what if it's a bootycall you've had for years? Or a potential one night stand with someone from the internet? Or a guy from church? Or any of the other million possibilities that may have not occurred to me? What then?

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I don't wonder anymore. In all honesty, it doesn't matter what they want to hear in response. It recently occurred to me that I had been asking the wrong questions. The only question that really matters, is how I want to respond. There are two reasons a guy would send you this text. Only two. And you can try all the explaining and excuses or bullshit responses but the truth is, I'm right. On this one thing. Every guy ever, was asking, is asking, for one of these two reasons: 1. He's throwing bird seed. 2. He wants to fuck you. If he's throwing bird seed, RUN! This dude does not care about you, and I'm not even talking about in a swooning-girlfriendy-kind of way. This dude doesn't give a shit about your time, your feelings, your happiness. To be honest, he doesn't even care about you as a human being, you are a means to an end and dammit, You're better than that and stop being so pathetic and rewarding this type of shitty behavior from human beings!!!

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And it's your move. The board is set. The pieces are all lined up. Now all you have to do is ask yourself, do you want to play? I used to spend a great deal of time wondering what boys wanted to hear in response to this. I mean, did they really want to know what I was wearing in a literal sense? Or was this their way of sussing out whether or not I was down for a bootycall? Or were they just being misguidedly playful?

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If you can honestly answer yes to these questions then I would guess you're ready to answer his text. And by the way, if your answer is yes...that's awesome. Good for you! Get yours! Have fun! Be safe! And feel free to come back and tell me everything!! But if your answer is no, hey that's okay. We all come in different emotional packages and we want different things out of life and that's just all well and good. The most important thing is that you know yourself, make smart decisions for yourself, and to be completely honest, keep your judgment of others to a minimum (that goes for both the yesers and noers). So how to you respond to his question what are you wearing? First and foremost, think sexy. But what if you're not (looking sexy at the moment)? Sure, okay, so maybe you're like me and busy studying in your jogging pants, sports bra and sweatshirt. Here is the time for the white lie. How far you stretch the truth is your call and it will have a lot to do with what you (and he) are into. So you say, I'm wearing red lace panties with a matching red bra... I'm wearing that little black dress you like... Absolutely nothing...you should get over here to keep me warm... Nothing but high heels and a smile... Whip cream and caramel sauce...have you had dessert yet?

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This is the part I can't really help you with, except to suggest some questions you might want to ask yourself to help you think through your decision. Because after all, this is your decision. So when he texts what are you wearing? ask yourself these questions: Do you want to have sex with him? If you're not ready to have sex with him will you have the self-control to stop things if they progress too far (and are you prepared to tell him ahead of time what your limits are)? Are you prepared for the after-sex level of commitment (or more likely lack thereof) that he is offering? Have you correctly ascertained that he falls into this and not the bird seed category? Do you properly understand that sex and emotion are not mutually inclusive? Will you be okay if the "relationship" never progresses past a sexual experience?

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